Happy Wednesday, everyone!
Here’s to hoping you guys are off to a great day so far. Speaking of being off to a great day, I’ve been thinking about how a lot of us start our days. This topic was actually something that started pouring out of me one morning during the month of August, while I was on my technology hiatus; so as the words flowed, I put pen to paper, and this is what I came up with:
Why do we let the tone of our day depend on what other people do? Why do we leave our happiness in the hands of others? We never know how someone else is going to act, or what they’re going to say, (that can change from moment to moment); so, should we hold our breath, waiting for someone to behave “well”, or in a way most pleasing to us, before we can have a good day? Why do we give certain people, leading roles in our movie? Especially people we don’t even like, or annoy us, or use us, or we just simply aren’t in alignment with them. Maybe we need to reduce some people’s roles down to bit parts, or to extras. They don’t have to be your leading man or lady. They don’t have to be a recurring villain, or even a “very special guest star”.
Who are you letting have too big of a role in your “movie”? Is it your boss? Some annoying co-worker? Is it the bully from your childhood? Maybe it’s your best friend, with all her drama. Maybe it’s even some of your family members. The trick is to distinguish between who needs to be completely cut out of your movie, (if they practically can be), and those who simply need to be given a lesser role. You probably wouldn’t want to completely fire your sister from your “movie project” altogether, but if she’s always bringing discord and strife to your doorstep, it might be better for your peace and sanity, to not let her be one of the lead actresses. Maybe she just needs to have one of those roles like the “quirky neighbor” who’s only on screen for ten seconds at a time; or if you look at it in terms of a TV show, instead of a movie, maybe she just needs to be a guest star. In other “episodes”, she might play a bigger role–but you choose which, and when.
Even as I write this, there are some people in my life that I’ve given too much of a starring role in my reality. They stay on my mind too much, and for too long. I analyze why they behave the way they do, far too often, and let their behaviors annoy me, even when I’m home, and out of their presence. I don’t want them as leading men or ladies in my production. These people need to get relegated to guess stars or extras–and quick! It’s time for me to take responsibility for how my day unfolds, independent of what my co-workers or clients, or even my family members do.
I can never control others words or actions, (and not even my initial thoughts about those things), but I can choose to step into my rightful role as writer, director, and star of my own show, so to speak. I can choose to eliminate or change around some parts, direct my own actions, and re-write some storylines. I can create a production that’s more in alignment with who and where I choose to be, on a higher level. I can move away from negativity, and instead, go in the direction I want to go. So, I say, let’s take this moment to seize the day, and be the stars once again, of our own productions! Who will you choose to fire? Who’ll get a bit part? Which special people deserve to be your co-leads? And even, which storylines will get cut or shortened? You decide.
I’ll see you guys again for a special First Day of Autumn post on Friday!
Until then,
Bless Your October Souls
